6 Tips That People Don’t Think About When Preparing For Divorce
No one goes into a marriage thinking they will eventually get divorced. But things happen: people make mistakes or drift apart, and the next thing they know, they are meeting with a family lawyer trying to make sense of what to do next.
There’s plenty of advice out there that will help prepare you for divorce, and at Nelson Law Group we’ve written about several of them in our blogs, whether it be practical tips on how to save money in a divorce to what to tell your children and what you should look for in a competent divorce lawyer.
But what about the stuff that we don’t always think about? Many times, it’s the simple answers or strategies that slip through the cracks and end up complicating things the deeper you get into the divorce proceedings.
Here are a few to consider:
Keep your family and friends out of it
Friends and family are an amazing support system to get you through emotional ruts, but unless you have a friend or family member who is a lawyer, refrain from taking their advice when developing your divorce strategy. Friends and family will be on your side, which on paper is a good thing, but that can also lead to advice that’s purely driven off emotion.
Keep your children away
It’s important to talk to your kids about the changes that divorce will bring and be respectful of their feelings and emotions, but the last thing you want to do is have them hanging around a courthouse with you or sitting next to you in your lawyer’s office listening to contentious arguments or detailed conversations that are meant for adults. Many times, parties in a divorce don’t think about the little ears that are listening as they try to weave their way through a difficult time.
Avoid venting on social media
Social media can be a great place to share happenings in your life and catch up with friends and family, but it is the worst place to air your dirty laundry when it comes to getting divorced. If you say anything online, it can and will come back to bite you in court. The same can be said for emails, text messages, or anything you put in print.
Keep your emotions in check
This is easier said than done, but it’s important that you think as rationally as possible and keep emotions out of it when making decisions or providing testimony.
Let your divorce lawyer take the wheel
If you want to achieve your goals in your divorce case, you need to make sure you let your lawyer take the front seat and do the work for you. Sure, there is prep work that you can do to eliminate unnecessary costs and make their jobs easier, but allow your lawyer the opportunity to develop a case strategy in consultation with you.
Resolve your problems; is divorce really the answer?
Many disputes that seem irreconcilable at first can be worked out through proper counseling. The first step is for both parties to do an honest self-assessment and be open to the idea that they may have contributed to the marriage problems. If these problems can be resolved, you can save a marriage.
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When contemplating divorce, it is important to have a knowledgeable attorney in your corner at all times. Give our staff here at Nelson Law Group, PC a call if you have any further questions regarding this – or any other – issue. Our staff is always available. Give us a call today! For more information about Brett A Nelson click here.
Source: Nelson Law Group